...and we have prideful women to blame for that. We are all guilty of it! We claim that we want the romance in movies and our "knight in shining armor" but if we were honest with ourselves, would we really be willing to give up our pride and independence for love? After all, you spent several thousands of dollars for your education that made you independent and able to provide for yourself, wouldn't it be a crime to waste it?
So, what's a guy to do nowadays? We say we want a gentleman; someone to open car doors for us, someone who will shower us in bouquets of flowers, someone who will always pick up the tab...but when it comes between the "nice guy" and the "mysterious guy", we choose the one who we have to fight for his attention and try to change him instead of picking the good guy, the one who doesn't leave us guessing. Bless their hearts, the good guys just can't win.
A few years ago, a couple of my friends and I went out to dinner together. My friend, Patrick, picked me and my girl friend up from our dorm and drove us to the restaurant. These were the days when we were dining daily at the wonderful school cafeteria (which was anything but appetizing) so it was a big deal when my friends and I actually decided to venture off campus for a meal. McDonald's would have been considered "fine dining" in comparison to what we were eating at school! When we arrived to the restaurant, he opened the doors for us, picked up both mine and my girl friend's tab, and expected absolutely nothing in return. I was so taken aback! He was the only guy friend I have ever had that would pick up my bill and not make a big deal out of it. Long story short, Patrick is now my boyfriend and has been for over a year and a half. What can I say, I know a good thing when I see it!
Sadly to say, guys like Patrick are a rare breed these days. Here's the key to chivalry guys, don't make it obvious. When you make it known that you are trying to be chivalrous... you're instantly an unattractive, arrogant pig. It's plain and simple. When you are chivalrous just because you want to be and expecting nothing in return, we'll want to keep you around. Being a gentleman doesn't make you whipped, it just makes you a bigger man than the guys who call you that.
Ladies...stop expecting guys to be gentlemen. Generally, most guys aren't going to be chivalrous if you think you deserve it. Don't be stingy and steal his thunder either. Let him dote on you and take care of you. I promise, he won't think any less of you as an independent woman. Most guys find that attractive, anyway.
Chivalry isn't dead. Now go prove it.
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