Patrick Michael
Patrick Michael
Sunday, July 18, 2010
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Chivalry ain't dead, but it is on life support...
...and we have prideful women to blame for that. We are all guilty of it! We claim that we want the romance in movies and our "knight in shining armor" but if we were honest with ourselves, would we really be willing to give up our pride and independence for love? After all, you spent several thousands of dollars for your education that made you independent and able to provide for yourself, wouldn't it be a crime to waste it?
So, what's a guy to do nowadays? We say we want a gentleman; someone to open car doors for us, someone who will shower us in bouquets of flowers, someone who will always pick up the tab...but when it comes between the "nice guy" and the "mysterious guy", we choose the one who we have to fight for his attention and try to change him instead of picking the good guy, the one who doesn't leave us guessing. Bless their hearts, the good guys just can't win.
A few years ago, a couple of my friends and I went out to dinner together. My friend, Patrick, picked me and my girl friend up from our dorm and drove us to the restaurant. These were the days when we were dining daily at the wonderful school cafeteria (which was anything but appetizing) so it was a big deal when my friends and I actually decided to venture off campus for a meal. McDonald's would have been considered "fine dining" in comparison to what we were eating at school! When we arrived to the restaurant, he opened the doors for us, picked up both mine and my girl friend's tab, and expected absolutely nothing in return. I was so taken aback! He was the only guy friend I have ever had that would pick up my bill and not make a big deal out of it. Long story short, Patrick is now my boyfriend and has been for over a year and a half. What can I say, I know a good thing when I see it!
Sadly to say, guys like Patrick are a rare breed these days. Here's the key to chivalry guys, don't make it obvious. When you make it known that you are trying to be chivalrous... you're instantly an unattractive, arrogant pig. It's plain and simple. When you are chivalrous just because you want to be and expecting nothing in return, we'll want to keep you around. Being a gentleman doesn't make you whipped, it just makes you a bigger man than the guys who call you that.
Ladies...stop expecting guys to be gentlemen. Generally, most guys aren't going to be chivalrous if you think you deserve it. Don't be stingy and steal his thunder either. Let him dote on you and take care of you. I promise, he won't think any less of you as an independent woman. Most guys find that attractive, anyway.
Chivalry isn't dead. Now go prove it.
So, what's a guy to do nowadays? We say we want a gentleman; someone to open car doors for us, someone who will shower us in bouquets of flowers, someone who will always pick up the tab...but when it comes between the "nice guy" and the "mysterious guy", we choose the one who we have to fight for his attention and try to change him instead of picking the good guy, the one who doesn't leave us guessing. Bless their hearts, the good guys just can't win.
A few years ago, a couple of my friends and I went out to dinner together. My friend, Patrick, picked me and my girl friend up from our dorm and drove us to the restaurant. These were the days when we were dining daily at the wonderful school cafeteria (which was anything but appetizing) so it was a big deal when my friends and I actually decided to venture off campus for a meal. McDonald's would have been considered "fine dining" in comparison to what we were eating at school! When we arrived to the restaurant, he opened the doors for us, picked up both mine and my girl friend's tab, and expected absolutely nothing in return. I was so taken aback! He was the only guy friend I have ever had that would pick up my bill and not make a big deal out of it. Long story short, Patrick is now my boyfriend and has been for over a year and a half. What can I say, I know a good thing when I see it!
Sadly to say, guys like Patrick are a rare breed these days. Here's the key to chivalry guys, don't make it obvious. When you make it known that you are trying to be chivalrous... you're instantly an unattractive, arrogant pig. It's plain and simple. When you are chivalrous just because you want to be and expecting nothing in return, we'll want to keep you around. Being a gentleman doesn't make you whipped, it just makes you a bigger man than the guys who call you that.
Ladies...stop expecting guys to be gentlemen. Generally, most guys aren't going to be chivalrous if you think you deserve it. Don't be stingy and steal his thunder either. Let him dote on you and take care of you. I promise, he won't think any less of you as an independent woman. Most guys find that attractive, anyway.
Chivalry isn't dead. Now go prove it.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Can't buy me love.
If you have turned on ESPN at least once in the past month, you will have noticed that it has been heavily covering Lebron James' free agency. Last Thursday while watching his press conference he stated that he was opting for the team who would be offering him less money. Instead of making well over $100 million in the next 7 years, he will be making just shy of $100 million...okay really?! First, how nice of him to give up a few million dollars that he will probably never use in his lifetime anyway........ Second, let's think about this for a minute. One hundred MILLION dollars....in seven years. I will most likely never see 1 million dollars in my bank account in my lifetime, let alone one hundred million! Here I am, a starving college student working my tush off to just get by, and Lebron James will do next to nothing and make more money than I could ever dream of. Where is the fairness in that?
I can promise you that he will never use all of the money he makes in the next seven years, not to mention what he has made since he was drafted into the NBA. So, why not cut that salary and give it to people who need it? We have citizens of the United States who are eating out of trashcans and living in cardboard boxes who would do nearly anything just to have the smallest fraction of his income. We have soldiers overseas that won't have a shower for 7 months at a time, don't sleep because the temperature is so cold and their blankets are paper thin, soldiers who will only speak to their families once every month (if that) and are eating meals that don't even come close to providing them with the nutrition they need. If anyone deserves that money, it's the people who are risking their lives every day and night to make sure that people like Lebron James have the freedom to play basketball. It makes me sick to think that our economy is in the shape that it is in, and we have people who are making enough money to actually make a difference and instead of helping, they sit on it and boast about the fact that they have more money than they know what to do with.
Money can't buy me happiness. I am rich with the things in life that don't cost a dime, and I do believe that the best things in life aren't "things" at all.
Bottom line, money is good...but the love of money is a major source of evil in society. People will kill for it. People spend it on horrible things. Some people are greedy and can never get enough. It is the most powerful tool in our possession because it enables us to do pretty much whatever we want to do. I think that if we changed our views of money the world would be a lot different. Instead of asking ourselves "How much money do I need?", we should ask ourselves "What do I want to accomplish in my life, and how much money will it take?"
I can promise you that he will never use all of the money he makes in the next seven years, not to mention what he has made since he was drafted into the NBA. So, why not cut that salary and give it to people who need it? We have citizens of the United States who are eating out of trashcans and living in cardboard boxes who would do nearly anything just to have the smallest fraction of his income. We have soldiers overseas that won't have a shower for 7 months at a time, don't sleep because the temperature is so cold and their blankets are paper thin, soldiers who will only speak to their families once every month (if that) and are eating meals that don't even come close to providing them with the nutrition they need. If anyone deserves that money, it's the people who are risking their lives every day and night to make sure that people like Lebron James have the freedom to play basketball. It makes me sick to think that our economy is in the shape that it is in, and we have people who are making enough money to actually make a difference and instead of helping, they sit on it and boast about the fact that they have more money than they know what to do with.
Money can't buy me happiness. I am rich with the things in life that don't cost a dime, and I do believe that the best things in life aren't "things" at all.
Bottom line, money is good...but the love of money is a major source of evil in society. People will kill for it. People spend it on horrible things. Some people are greedy and can never get enough. It is the most powerful tool in our possession because it enables us to do pretty much whatever we want to do. I think that if we changed our views of money the world would be a lot different. Instead of asking ourselves "How much money do I need?", we should ask ourselves "What do I want to accomplish in my life, and how much money will it take?"
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Simple Saturdays...
I absolutely love days like today. I slept in...late, I went straight to my kiddy pool to catch some rays (and hopefully get some of this pasty whiteness off my skin!), and now I am here publishing my very first blog on my very first website. Scary stuff.
Anyway, on this site (which I hope to update frequently) I will be publishing different photography pieces I have taken, as well as some of my thoughts; silly, serious, and sometimes challenging. So with that said....ENJOY :)
Todays food for thought:
A brilliant and deep quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. Read it a few times and take it all in.
"Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be uncumbered with your old nonsense."
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Anyway, on this site (which I hope to update frequently) I will be publishing different photography pieces I have taken, as well as some of my thoughts; silly, serious, and sometimes challenging. So with that said....ENJOY :)
Todays food for thought:
A brilliant and deep quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. Read it a few times and take it all in.
"Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be uncumbered with your old nonsense."
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